The Mystery Blogger

Thank you to searchingformyinnerzen for this nomination for an award, The Mystery Blogger Award. I really enjoy reading your blogs and massively appreciate the inspiration and serenity I get in return.

What is the Mystery Blogger Award?

“Mystery Blogger Award” is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging; and they do it with so much love and passion.

– Okoto Enigma


1 – Thank whoever nominated you and include link to their blog

2 – Tell your readers three things about yourself

3 – Nominate 10-20 bloggers you feel deserve the award

4 – Notify your nominees by commenting on their blog

5 – Ask your nominees 5 questions of your choice with one weird or funny one

Three Things You Should Know About Me:

– I’ve never been happier with my self.

– The bravest thing I’ve done is let go.

– I now have hope for the future.

My answers to searchingformyinnerzen‘s questions:

Who are some people you only met once but they left a big impression on you?

Luvo Manyonga – current world champion long jumper. His story of recovery is inspirational. His determination is motivating. His smile is contagious. A truly miraculous chain of events led me to meeting him a day after winning his title in 2017.

What is your least favourite food?

Mustard! Ginger! And Horseradish! It’s a tie between the three of them!

What was your favourite cartoon when you were growing up?

Difficult but great question! Can I have a few? As you can’t say no I’ll go ahead haha…. Mr Ben, Dogtanian, Thundercats, Dungeons and Dragons

What celebrity would you love to have dinner with?

Robson Green. Eating what we’ve caught off the shore of some paradise island would be ideal!

What have you really wanted to do for a long time but haven’t done yet?

My cryptic answer would be – to be happy. But that’s cheating as I think I’ve done it, or at least I’m giving it a good go!

Otherwise, I’d have to say travel more. So much of the world I would love to see. Nepal is on top of my wish list.

My Nominees:






5 questions for my nominees

1 – Was there a turning point in your life? If so when?

2 – What’s the most important lesson you’ve learnt?

3 – What are you grateful for today?

4 – Where are you right this second?

5 – What’s the strangest thing you enjoy?

Looking forward to your replies!

Thank you for reading.

That ‘Certain Person’

Gratitude List 18/04/2018

Life isn’t always singing and dancing. Even if an obstacle doesn’t come your own way, there’s always a chance one will be met by a friend, colleague or loved one. For some unknown reason, these moments can be very difficult when it involves that ‘certain person’. That person we spent most of our time with. That person we love like no other. Today, I am very grateful for the tools I have acquired through recovery that allow me to be there and be as supportive as I can be.

Be present and actually listen. In the past, this simple but vital step was often very weak in effort. I was often preoccupied in self. Often thinking about what I want to say or questioning their decision making.

Put away my distractions. I still need to tell myself to put my phone down and turn off the TV. How disheartening it must be for someone sharing their difficulties to see me tapping on my phone or glancing at the TV.

Consideration and tolerance. I needed to learn about these strengths of character and when I did I quickly realised how rubbish I was at both of them. I’m so grateful I now have a better understanding. This person may be struggling and as a result feeling angry, frustrated and upset. The last thing they need is an inconsiderate, intolerant response from me.

Remain calm and composed. There’s no point escalating matters by getting frustrated myself. Also, my serenity can often be contagious.

Close my eyes, breathe and say a little prayer. The serenity to accept what I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. This has taken me a lot of practice but the results are beginning to show. Growing resentments and frustration can be squashed!

And most importantly, let go.