Gratitude List 07/05/2019: Acceptance AND Courage

Gratitude List 07/05/2019

Acceptance AND Courage.

More often than not, ‘accepting the things I cannot change’ goes hand in hand with having ‘the courage to change the things I can’. Rarely can I solely accept and take no action. Both acceptance and courage are as important and as beneficial as each other. Together they can work wonders.

Today I am grateful I can accept I am an addict, but I can also have the courage to serve, unite and recover.

Today I am grateful I can accept I am not perfect, but I can also have the courage to progress.

Today I am grateful I can accept my past, but I can also have the courage to face it and then use it to better my present.

Today I am grateful I can accept the actions and behaviours of others, but I can also have the courage to react in the right way.

Today I am grateful I can accept I am capable of resentment, but I can also have the courage to use the tools and forgive.

Today I am grateful I can accept my self-will can take control, but I can also have the courage to hand it back over again.

Today I am grateful I can accept my financial situation, but I can also have the courage to budget and be responsible with money.

Today I am grateful I can accept I make mistakes, but I can also have the courage to learn from them.

Today I am grateful I can accept I am capable of causing harm, but I can also have the courage to make amends.

Today I am grateful I can accept life on life’s terms, but I can also do my bit and be the best person possible to those around me.

Gratitude List 16/02/2019: Serenity, More or Less

Gratitude List 16/02/2019

Serenity: the state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled.

Today I am grateful I am more calm when challenged with resentment.

Today I am grateful I am more calm when faced with a fear.

Today I am grateful I am more calm when under pressure.

Today I am grateful my heart is more calm.

Today I am grateful my mind is more peaceful.

Today I am grateful my lifestyle is more peaceful.

Today I am grateful my words, actions and behaviours are more peaceful.

Today I am grateful my nature is more peaceful.

Today I am grateful my days are less troubled.

Today I am grateful the people around me are less troubled.

Today I am grateful the path I am leaving behind is less troubled.

Today I am grateful my eyes are less troubled.

A beautiful way to feel. No wonder I continuously pray for serenity. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

People Pleasing

Gratitude List 24/01/2019

People pleasing and the serenity prayer.

I’ve always been a people pleaser and I’ve realised this is predominantly because I want to be a good person. But sometimes it’s based on a fear of letting people down. Like so many other things the serenity prayer seems to fit perfectly. When faced with this particular fear, I have asked my greater power for guidance through the serenity prayer. In return my greater power has directed me to the following three steps which have helped me hugely.

First Step – ACCEPT. In my experience, something must’ve happened for the fear to be created – examples are running late for an appointment due to traffic or being put in a difficult situation, either by myself or another, whereby someone’s values will be challenged. Whatever it is, it’s in the past and therefore I have to accept it for what it is – I cannot change it.

Second Step – CHANGE. From that point, I ask ‘is there anything I can change?’ First and foremost I can always put my fear down on paper, pray and hand it over to my greater power. If I’ve been guided towards further action, then while I’m on my knees I can pray for the required courage. Any following action needs to be within spiritual lines, there’s no point taking the easy way out with an insincere act. For example, a lie to cover a lie, or cause harm to another just to save my own neck.

Third Step – ACCEPT. If further action is required, then I need to remind myself I have no control as to how someone reacts to it. It maybe, that despite doing the next right thing, I could upset another. Fearing this could prevent me from doing what I need to. I need to accept the things I cannot change – that includes other people and how they react. I can’t please everyone.

No scenario is the same. Above is just one. When to accept? When to change? It’s never straightforward. That’s why there is so much importance on the prayer itself, I am asking my greater power for some help and willing to wait and listen for the answer through meditation.

Today I am grateful for the wisdom to know the difference.