Gratitude List 04/03/2019: Positive thinking

Gratitude List 04/03/2019

I love a little moan…. Thankfully, by practicing gratitude, I am more often than not quick to see the positive side – the silver lining.

Today I am grateful that when my girlfriend causes me harm, I remember (sometimes after a while) that I have a girlfriend and one I love… and one I almost lost.

Today I am grateful that when it’s wet, windy and cold, I remember I have a home to go to, a warm coat to wear and I live in a country where the weather doesn’t reach extreme measures.

Today I am grateful that when things are financially tight, I remember I have some and that things used to be so much worse.

Today I am grateful that when I wish I wasn’t doing overtime, I remember that thousands and thousands do not have any employment at all.

Today I am grateful that when I’d rather not look at the list of house chores, I remember that having a home is a blessing I cannot forget and keeping it clean is good for my serenity.

Today I am grateful that when I wish I could do better with certain things, I remember all the positive changes I have made in the last couple of years. I remember where I’ve come from.

Today I am grateful that when I miss my kids, I remember that I get to see them twice a week. I could have easily been in a position where I either saw them less, or even to the point where they didn’t want to see me.

Today I am grateful that when I receive criticism, I remember (sometimes slowly) the lessons I can learn from it.

Gratitude List 25/02/2019: Definition of a Mature Person – Part One

Gratitude List 25/02/2019

l. We accept criticism gratefully, being honestly glad for an opportunity to improve?

Today I am grateful I am learning to accept criticism gratefully. This is not easy, because my default position was to react with arrogance, self-pity, anger and resentment. But I am getting better, I am learning how to deal with my emotions, characteristics and how to let go. Even when criticism does cause me harm, if I manage to bite my lip, I often see the lessons to be learned once the red mist clears.

2. We do not indulge in self-pity and have begun to feel the laws of compensation operating in all life?

Today I am grateful for a huge improvement with regards to self-pity. Sure, it still plays a part in my life but in contrast to what it used to, it’s a million times better. When it comes to ‘the laws of compensation’ (after Googling the meaning) I can safely say I have begun to feel it in my life – it’s very evident in my recovery.

3. We do not expect special consideration from anyone?

Today I am grateful for the progression in this. Early on in my recovery I craved recognition for my abstinence and my efforts. Prior to that I desired sympathy for the difficulties I created. The humility I have gained through the step work has made me realise I am not the arbiter of the universe. I am no more special than my neighbour, I am a being, just like the billions of others.

4. We control our temper?

Today I am grateful for my improved control over my temper. With regards to my girlfriend I feel it has come on tenfolds. I still lose my temper with my kids, but far less often and when I do, at least I have control in a sense of my awareness and desire to keep improving.