Encompassing

Gratitude List 10/01/2019

Today’s reflection spoke of the serenity prayer. It is said that the serenity prayer encompasses all of life’s situations. When I reflect on my day I realise how very true this is.

Today I am grateful I had the serenity to accept people I interacted with for who they are and not try to change them to how I want them to be.

Today I am grateful I had the courage to change the only person I could – Myself.

Today I am grateful I had the wisdom to know the difference.

Today I am grateful I had the serenity to accept who I am. I can’t change my past and where it has led me.

Today I am grateful I had the courage to do my daily suggestions giving me the best chance of progression.

Today I am grateful I had the wisdom to know the difference.

Today I am grateful I had the serenity to accept my financial situation which will be tough for several years to come.

Today I am grateful I had the courage to be financially responsible when I needed to and not spend money unnecessarily.

Today I am grateful I had the wisdom to know the difference.

Today I am grateful I had the serenity to accept I cannot please everyone.

Today I am grateful I had the courage and awareness of my defects so I could do my best.

Today I am grateful I had the wisdom to know the difference.

Today I am grateful I had the serenity to accept that God, as I choose to understand him, is always there for me and always has been.

Today I am grateful I had the courage to improve my conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation.

Today I am grateful I had the wisdom to know the difference.

And lastly….

Today I am grateful I had the serenity to accept I am not perfect and therefore I will not always have the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can or the wisdom to know the difference.

Advertisements

How I look at others

Gratitude List 09/01/2019

Through the Recovery Program, I am learning how to look at others completely differently. By doing this, my serenity is less affected by their actions. It is a learning process and there’s a long way to go still but I’m grateful for the progress I have made.

Today I am grateful for how I respond to harm done to me. Rather than letting any resentment drag on and fester, I have the tools to deal with them, and the love to forgive them.

Today I am grateful I consider that no one is perfect, nor should I expect them to be so. As such, each person has their own challenges and only they can tackle them.

Today I am grateful I see the good in people. Yes, I often see the bad too but at least there is now a positive counter balance. I try to remind myself of their qualities when I’m seeing their defects. Not easy in the heat of the moment, but it works for me.

Today I am grateful I accept that others are entitled to their opinion and it doesn’t need to be the same as mine. Right or wrong, I don’t need to offer mine in return.

Today I am grateful that I am not envious of the the ‘Mr Perfects’ of the world. In total contrast to me reacting with a good ‘piss take’ I am now genuinely happy for them. Instead, they inspire and motivate me.

Today I am grateful I am trying to stop controlling how others think, behave and act. I do a terrible job controlling my own life, why would I want to control anyone else’s?

Today I am grateful I accept that someone’s values do not have to match my own. I’ve realised (through my sponsor) that many disagreements, arguments and subsequent resentments are formed as a result of values clashing. Values are important to people and I have to learn to respect them.

Today I am grateful I am learning that I cannot and do not have to please everyone all of the time. The fear of letting people down is slowly but surely playing a lesser role in my life. My very next step may not please everyone and I’m learning that’s ok. I no longer fear being honest and as a result do less harm.

Good and Bad

Gratitude List 04/06/2018

‘…. all of me, good and bad.’

The above words form part of my nightly prayers and serve as a great reminder of what handing my will over includes. My will doesn’t just include my defects (the things Ive decided I want guidance around), it’s ‘all of me’, including what’s improving and what I perceive to be my strengths. When I recently scored myself marks out of 10 for each characteristic, I never once gave myself top marks. So each night when I hand over my will to my higher power I remember I am giving ‘all of me’ and not just the bad parts.

What I think I’m doing well, I might not be. And if I am, my higher power can guide me to do it even better.

I’ve not exactly been a good judge of what’s right and wrong, what’s good or bad, so today I am very grateful I am also handing over…..

– Love

– Friendliness

– Optimism

– Honesty

– Open-mindedness

– Willingness

– Kindness

– Generosity

– Unity

– Gratefulness

– Tolerance

– ALL OF ME.

No longer a closed book

Gratitude List 25/04/2018

I often hear the importance of H.O.W – honesty, open-mindedness and willingness. And rightly so. Today I am very aware of how vital the ‘O’ is.

Open-mindedness is receptiveness to new ideas. Open-mindedness relates to the way in which people approach the views and knowledge of others, and “incorporate the beliefs that others should be free to express their views and that the value of others’ knowledge should be recognized.”

It’s hardly surprising that part of the definition of narrow-mindedness is having or showing a prejudiced mind, not receptive to new ideas; having a closed mind.

In the past I have been so narrow-minded, it was like living in a forcefield protected tunnel with zero light at the end of it. As far as other’s views and opinions were concerned I was a closed book. With this type of thinking and living I was faced with little to no opportunities, heavily biased choices and a very slim chance of change.

Since learning how to open up I have rid much and gained much too. The below are by no means perfect or complete but they are progressing in the right way:

Rid of self-will, gained a belief in a higher power.

Rid of tunnel-vision, gained an appreciation of the universe.

Rid of self-management, gained a recovery program.

Rid of intolerance, gained consideration and understanding.

Rid of projection, gained faith.

Rid of surpression, gained sharing. (H)

Rid of judgement, gained acceptance.

Rid of ego, gained humility.

Rid of desire, gained gratitude.

Rid of ‘wait to talk’, gained the ability to listen.

Rid of ‘I’m always right’, gained ‘I can learn from my wrongs.’

Rid of fear, gained serenity.

Rid of isolation, gained connection.

Rid of the bondage of self, gained the opportunity to be willing. (W)

Without open-mindedness, none of the above would be happening. That’s how important it is to me.

Time is precious

Gratitude List 12/04/2018

One thing I am sure to not get back is the time I have wasted. I have accepted that there is nothing I can do about that. What I can do is my upmost to not waste another minute. Life is indeed precious.

Other than when I sleep I am always doing something. But what is it I am doing? Is what I’m doing productive for me? Or am I just being my old self, the same self that I’m trying to better?

My gratitude list today refers to all the moments of my day where if I chose to, I could choose to do something positive instead of the norm which actually offers me very little. There are many opportunities like this a day in my life!! An example, the other day, like most days I turned on the TV. There was nothing particular on that I fancied watching. The thought (the choice) came into my head, that I could continue, or I could choose to turn the TV off and connect with friends – something I know will give me serenity and happiness. I did 😊. I don’t want to waste any more time! I’m not saying there’s not a time and a place for watching trash TV, but I do have to make more time to work on my recovery. Therefore I am very grateful for the many opportunities I have on a daily basis, for which a few are listed below.

When I’m about to watch Ramsey’s Kitchen Nightmares, or Lizard Licker, or Man Vs Food.

When I’m about to go on Facebook or Twitter for the tenth time in the last hour.

When I’m about to check my emails – again!

When I’m about to instigate a conversation with someone I know I shouldn’t.

When I’m about to say something that will tie-up the next half hour with an argument.

When I’m about to unnecessarily moan at my kids.

When I’m about to indulge in some junk food on the sofa.

When I’m about to online shop.

Surrounded

Gratitude List 11/04/2018

Gratitude surrounds me at the moment. At this very precise moment. It always is, I just need to stop and open my eyes and heart to it. It may have taken me ten minutes or so to write this list but the actual experience lasted only a few seconds. That’s not to say my gratitude didn’t continue afterwards but the point I’m trying to make is the amount of gratitude I had in that short amount of time.

The comfort I feel.

The smiles.

The 80s music on the radio.

The sound of chatter and laughter.

The silence that surrounds the noise.

The fact I’m where I should be.

My lack of thinking.

My serenity. My connection.

My health and wellbeing.

My senses.

My breathing. My heart beating. My life.

If you stopped right now and opened your eyes and heart, what gratitude would you feel?